I am not the go-to person when it comes to beauty advice, tips on makeup and hair, or anything else that is remotely girly or considered one of the many areas of expertise of a drag queen. I’ve never gotten a manicure or pedicure, I don’t know how to use a curling iron or that weird contraption that makes your eyelashes curly, and I haven’t the faintest idea what I should do when it comes to plucking and tweezing my eyebrows into shape. I guess I’m lucky I don’t have a unibrow; things would be quite ugly considering my skills.
That all said, I tend to go crazy over hair and beauty products. I always have half a dozen conditioners on hand, all different varieties, along with the same number of leave-in conditioners or sprays. I adore eyeshadow and eyeliner; my current supply is a bit ridiculous and I’m constantly having to stop myself from adding to it before I need to. I’m an eSalon member and have to struggle with my urges to dye my hair more often; as it is, I have to change up the color and highlights at least every 6 weeks to keep from going crazy. Mary Kay representatives could have a field day with me if they catch me at the right moment; I’ll buy things I don’t need just because it’s cute and I can’t deny myself whatever product in question has caught my eye.
For me, the majority of my purchases are part of an experiment to find what works best for me. What makeup products can be applied quickly and last throughout the day. What hair dyes will last the longest without fading but still allow me to drop in high and low lights. Most important for me though is my hair. I have incredibly annoying curly hair. My diverse ethnic background has given me very strange hair that doesn’t like to cooperate with me at all. Wearing it curly presents a world of challenges for me, so I tend to turn to my Jilbere flat iron six days a week to turn my mess of curls into something smooth and sleek.
It’s easy for most people, but the straightening process has always taken me far too long and left my hair feeling dry and stiff. My ends will be split and frizzy, my hair will break easily and litter my bathroom counter, and I will be tempted to just shave the whole mess off before I lose patience and get it cut super short again. It seems as though every time I think I have found a solution, my hair will adapt and stop responding to whatever conditioning treatment I’ve given it. I feel as if I’ve been on a never ending quest to have decent hair, and every time I see my goal in sight, I realize it’s nothing more than an illusion.
By chance one day, as I was annoying Google with questions about good products to use for low lights I planned on doing at home, I came across a blog that a very blond woman has posted. It was nothing more than a few photos of her before and after, plus a couple of her must-have products for hair bleaching. One of them was argan oil. I’ve never heard of the stuff, but her hair looked fantastic and I could get a decent amount for a low price on Amazon. I’ve been using it for about two months now and I definitely think I ripped off the seller. This stuff is a miracle in a bottle.
My hair is unbelievably soft, something I have really never been able to say before. The frizz is nonexistent and the breakage has stopped. I can run my fingers through it, which is something most people will shrug and say “so what” at, but it’s something I couldn’t do before without getting my hair tangled in knots. My slow-growing hair has begun to grow noticeably faster and behaves so well that I don’t have to use hairspray unless it rains and I get paranoid. It has also made the straightening process much easier; I have cut the time it takes in half because my hair will now go straight easily and without frizzing or drying out. I love my hair right now.
I know this seems like such a trivial thing, but for me to be happy with my hair is a very big deal. It’s always been a curse, something that was a chore instead of something I enjoyed. It’s made me feel insanely pretty again and allowed me to be the low maintenance person that I am. I’ve used various oils in the past, but argan oil is the only one that has given me real results, not just shiny hair for a few hours. It has allowed me to cut out all my heavy leave-in conditioners, as it does the job better and without weighing my hair down. It’s also great on all hair types and can be found at pretty fair prices on Amazon. I know I’m the last person that should be giving beauty advice, but this is the one thing I feel more than confident in recommending. Go get some.