Drink, Drank, Drunk!
Last night, my husband and I indulged our new obsession and squeezed two episodes of 30 Days into our evening before giving up and surrendering to sleep. The description of one episode mentioned a mother who decided to binge drink in order to prove a point to her daughter. I can’t read something like that and decide to watch something else! Not surprisingly [SPOILER] the mother’s efforts were wasted on her 19-year-old daughter; she held on to that “I know everything and alcohol doesn’t hurt me like it hurts other people” attitude. This college student was determined to continue drinking heavily because it was fun and she believed she could handle it. Thankfully, the mother’s youngest son benefited from the experience and seemed to be generally turned off to alcohol and its effects when abused. [END SPOILER]
I’m not against drinking or getting drunk and acting like an idiot. That being said, I’m not in support of people who drink and can’t handle their alcohol. This applies to those who get violently ill, who drive while heavily intoxicated, who ruin the fun for everyone around them, who have attitude problems, and who use and/or harm others. The young female on 30 Days [SPOILER] claimed to black out frequently, but would also claim to be able to handle her booze in the same sentence. She was cocky about her drinking and terribly rude to her mother, who was putting her health at risk in a last-ditch attempt to help her daughter out. [END SPOILER] I drank in college and even though it’s illegal when you’re underage, I don’t necessarily thing it’s wrong. It’s part of college life and the students are adults who are old enough to make decisions for themselves, even though the law states they need a couple more years. The drinking age in most countries is 18, and with the US being more uptight than other countries about almost everything, I’m more inclined to go with the views of a great deal of the rest of the world and think that 18 is old enough. That being said, I do think there are certain things college students should be doing if they are going to act as adults and indulge in alcohol.
1. Let go of the belief that you know everything. Us old people have been there, done it, and have the battle scars to prove it. Sometimes your parents aren’t idiots and do actually know what they’re talking about. At the very least, don’t be a smart ass and blow them off when they’re trying to help. They took the time to raise you, the least you can do is take the time to hear them out.
2. Don’t forget where you are. You’re in college. It’s a place to learn above all else. If you only desire to party, save your parents some cash on tuition and drop out, get a job at a bar or something. If you can’t balance your studies with your drinking, you have to give one up. I failed U.S. History the first time around because it was at 8am and I generally didn’t go to bed until 3am or later. If I had to do it all over again, I definitely wouldn’t have picked an early morning class.
3. Always have a plan to get home. The parties I went to in college were either within walking distance of my dorm and I made sure I went with a sober friend or was the sober friend. If you’re drinking and you’re underage, you CAN NOT DRIVE. One sip of beer is legally too much and you don’t want that on your record; you need a designated driver. If you’re walking back, it helps to have the sober friend as a designated walker to ensure you get back home safely and without climbing a tree or knocking on random doors thinking you’re home, behaviors that can out you as a drunk minor and get you in trouble on campus.
4. Drink responsibly. Yeah, I know, seems silly to tell minors to drink responsibly. But if you’re in college, you’re an adult (unless you’re one of those genius kids who graduates high school at 12). Don’t starve yourself before drinking so you can get drunk faster; eat a good meal before going out and don’t turn down a slice of pizza or other fun foods while drinking. Get a bottle of water or two and alternate good old H2O and your drink of choice; it’ll keep you hydrated and hopefully keep hangovers at bay. Don’t try to keep up with other people; we all have different tolerances and it’s better to have your boy call you a pussy than it is to be lying on the pavement in a puddle of puke. Do not operate heavy machinery or do anything else that the little voice in the back of your head tells you is a bad idea while intoxicated. Don’t pass out; people are dicks to the guy who passes out and people have cameras on their phones for instant upload of your shame to the internet.
5. Don’t expect mom and dad to approve of your activities. If they’re paying for your education, give them their money’s worth. Don’t expect them to fund your extracurricular activities as well as your education. If you don’t have the cash to go drinking, you either don’t drink or you get a job. You shouldn’t be shocked if your parents are upset with you for doing beer bongs. They SHOULD be upset; you’re too young and you’re supposed to be learning useful things, and NOT the best way to do a keg stand.
6. You are NOT Superman or Wonder Woman. My husband has never had a hangover (jerk) but that doesn’t mean he has the free reign to drink whatever he wants without consequence. Just because you’ve never tripped down a flight of stairs after a 6 pack doesn’t mean it’ll never happen to you. With alcohol comes stupid behavior and shit happens to the best of us. If you have the cocky attitude and act like you can take shots all night and be fine, you better believe it’ll come back to bite you in the ass eventually, and everyone who you aggravated with your “I’m untouchable” attitude will be there laughing at your expense.
7. Learn the benefit of being the sober friend. I think I had a psychic ability in college that allowed me to sense when NOT to drink; it saved me from MUIs (minor under the influence) and allowed me to drive drunk friends back to their dorms, saving them from consequence. It also allowed me to have a damn good time laughing at my drunk college buddies. The Hangover movies are hilarious because drunk people do dumb things and it’s funny to watch and even funnier sometimes watching them try to piece it all together the next day. Try it out once in a while.
8. Remember, IT IS STILL ILLEGAL! A loud party can get the cops called and you busted. Sneaking drinks at a concert or bar can get you in trouble as well. The cops won’t buy my argument that you’re an adult because you’re not at the legal drinking age and that’s all they care about. If you’re willing to take the risk, be willing to deal with the legal ramifications as well. As lucky as you think you are, you are not immune to the cranky cop who’s fed up with drunk frat boys and you might be the person he decides to take his anger out on. A few drinks isn’t worth a night or two in jail.
Alcohol is awesome but it can’t become your crutch when partying; you have to learn to have fun without it and you have to be willing to take a step back if you’re frequently blacking out and waking up in strange places with odd people. What’s the point of having a fun night if you can’t ever remember what you did? I’m not telling any of the under-21 crowd that they shouldn’t drink because I did enough of it before I legally could, but you’ve got to be smart about it and you’ve got to have respect for your parents. I’d be devastated if my son came home describing the numerous jello shots that caused him to black out and wake up in a bathtub. No parent wants to hear that crap about their child unless they utterly fail at parenting. If they’re telling you to slow down on the alcohol, it’s not because they’re trying to kill your good time, it’s because they’re trying to save your dignity and your liver. It’s coming from a place of love.
I’m not getting preachy here or advocating a life of sobriety; this chick plans on having a bottle of wine to herself one night this weekend. My bottom line here is simply to use your brain for more than a beer-absorbing sponge. Don’t become the sloppy chick who alternates between weepy and slutty. Don’t turn into the guy who projectile vomits like clockwork after the 8th shot of whiskey. If every night is spent using a toilet seat as a pillow, maybe you need to rethink your liquid diet a bit. Drink, get drunk, and be merry as all hell, just don’t let your drunken behavior define who you are and control your life. Now….. who wants a shot of Crown?
Posted on October 7, 2011, in Crazy People, Fun!, Party! and tagged 30 days, alcohol, alcoholic, beer, college, drink, drunk, morgan spurlock, parenting, shot, teenager. Bookmark the permalink. 11 Comments.