Kids And Guns
The massacre at the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut is horrifying and disgusting. Adam Lanza, the coward who murdered his mother before stealing innocent lives and ultimately ending his own, committed a crime that is near impossible for us to wrap our heads around. Twelve little girls, eight little boys, and six adults are gone from this world because of one disturbed individual who had a grudge against his mother and against society. Reports are now stating that Lanza could not feel physical or psychological pain in the same was as his peers; in our struggle to understand why this happened, we are looking inside the killer and into his life. The other thing we’re doing is diving back into the argument of gun control.
I can barely think about those lives that were cut horrendously short at the hands of a selfish madman without getting emotional and choked up. My heart breaks for the families affected and for the survivors in that school and community who have the near impossible task of healing and moving on. I’m also disappointed and disgusted by everyone, myself included, who gave in and started publicly sounding off on the issue of gun control before the school had even been secured and the bodies of those poor children moved out of the classrooms. 26 people dead and all we can do is whine about how guns are evil as others whine about guns not killing people because people kill people.
My Twitter timeline was suffocated by people, both celebrities and friends, choosing sides on the argument on gun control. The largest group blamed the tragedy on the ease of obtaining guns. They referenced the attack in China where a maniac with a knife attacked children and killed no one, using that as proof that guns are to blame. The other side argued that there is no danger with guns themselves, as the danger comes only when the gun is in the hands of a mentally unstable person. Both sides have valid points and both sides deserve to be heard, but is now really the right time to bring it up?
I completely agree that there do need to be some changed in the way we control who has guns and where they are allowed to have them. I agree that guns are a more dangerous and deadly tool than a knife. I agree that any weapon in the hands of a disturbed individual can be incredibly deadly. I agree that the gun is nothing without the person to hold it and that person’s will to fire it. I’m very much in favor of gun ownership and very against restrictions on what tools one is allowed to protect themselves with.
That all said, nothing good will come of me spreading my opinion on gun control. I will not help any of the victims in Connecticut and I will not bring comfort to their families. My heart can be in the right place while I express my views on guns and my thoughts on what COULD have and SHOULD have been done, but good intentions don’t necessarily yield positive results. [SIDENOTE: click here for my blogging buddy’s entry about the shooting. Although he wasn’t my inspiration for this entry, my words take an unintentional dig at him. That said, I couldn’t help but agree with many of his points and I encourage you to go read them]
These families do not need to be caught in the middle of a country divided on the issue of gun control, not while they are trying to bury their children and make sense of a senseless tragedy. It does make sense to bring up issues when they are relevant and in the front of everyone’s minds, but is it right to do so? Should we be pushing the gun control issue right now, using these lost lives as ammunition for our arguments? What good will it do to bring the gun debate into this? If I lost my son, I’m confident that one of the last things I’d want to hear about is whether or not his death could have been prevented if guns were more difficult to obtain.
The community of Newtown desperately needs to heal. Today, they are planning the first funerals for two of the children who were murdered. Students of Sandy Hook will be sent to other schools while the town debates on whether or not the school will ever reopen. Parents in the town, and across the nation, are holding their own children a bit tighter this morning and feeling quite uneasy watching their child board the bus for school. Newtown police, and officials in other areas, are increasing patrols and reexamining safety plans and emergency precautions. Just sitting here thinking about the shooting has me feeling sick to my stomach; I cannot begin to imagine the pain that is currently radiating through Newtown and all of Connecticut.
Normally, when tragedy strikes, we see and hear messages asking the public and the media to please respect the privacy of the families. We rarely ever take this advice, choosing instead to poke at tragedy with a pointy stick until it bleeds. This needs to stop, especially with the community of Newtown. Help by donating your time, your funds, and your ear. Examine your own children’s schools and educate yourself on their plans in the event of a shooter or another dangerous situation. Be more open to warning signs and see if enough resources are available for troubled people who are considering lashing out violently. Hug your child a bit tighter and be thankful you’re both still breathing.
The gun control debate needs to happen, I don’t argue that. It just doesn’t need to happen right this second, before the students and teachers have been laid to rest and before some have even been able to process what has happened. We don’t need to be focused on what the school should have done because we can’t change a thing. We need to place the blame on the person who earned it and refrain from blaming God (or lack thereof), guns, security, or any other factors. Once the community has had a chance to bury their dead and to find some sort of normalcy again, then we can revisit the tragedy and poke at it a bit. But we cannot and should not use these deaths as catalyst for gun control, arming teachers, God in school, or any of our other causes. The memory of the fallen in Newtown deserve much better.
Posted on December 17, 2012, in Fear, Kids, News and tagged adam lanza, gun control, massacre, newtown connecticut, sandy hook elementary school, school, shooting. Bookmark the permalink. 11 Comments.