Adam And Steve
Today marks the second day in a row that the Supreme Court will hear arguments in a case on gay marriage, which is a major issue in this country that attracts a lot of attention and provokes intense feelings. We are nearly equally divided as a nation, one side pulling for equality while the other side views same sex marriages as an insult to the institution of marriage, a sin, an abomination, or simply wrong and against nature. Regardless of who you are and what type of life you lead, you have likely been touched by this issue in one form or another. It will no doubt be interesting to see what results from the Supreme Court hearings.
I am strongly in favor of equal rights across the board when it comes to marriage. I believe any consenting adult should have the right to marry any other consenting adult, regardless of gender, race, religion, or other factor that has nothing to do with the love that exists between a couple. If two people are of age and of sound mind, eager to commit to each other and build a life together, who are we to deny them that? I will be celebrating my five year wedding anniversary tomorrow and I find it incredibly unfair that I get to do this while other loving couples out there are wondering if they will ever get to say “I do” and have it be more than symbolic. It makes no sense whatsoever.
To this day, I have never heard a decent and valid argument against same sex marriages. The various religious factors in existence that define marriage as a union between a man and a woman should have no bearing on the law. We are not one nation under one God; many different religions are practiced and some people don’t believe in any sort of God or higher power, so beliefs should not be dictating our laws and practices. The argument that marriage is meant to be the start of a family is invalid, as it would mean that infertile men and women also have no right to marry, which we know is untrue. There is no valid reason for people to think that allowing same sex marriages would destroy the institute itself; if quickie weddings between two foolish people aren’t destroying anything, surely a loving union between two women won’t either. Legalizing same sex marriage won’t affect the opposition personally; what these couples are doing behind closed doors isn’t hurting them now, won’t stop regardless of the law, and won’t affect them if the laws change. This argument should be a no brainer.
Being gay is as much of a choice as it is to be straight. I didn’t wake up one day and decide that men were for me; it was ingrained in my mind and part of who I am and my intended path in life. Likewise, no man or woman is sitting around, weighing their options before finally deciding that they would like to become gay. Homosexuality is a part of who they are, just like hair and eye color or personality and intelligence. To say that same sex marriages should not be legal is just as ridiculous as saying that natural redheads have no business getting married. It has no bearing on the person in question; it is simply a way to discriminate against something we don’t like, don’t understand, or don’t approve of.
We live in a country where communication with anyone in the world can happen with a few clicks of a mouse or swipes of a finger. We can visit a salon or a surgeon when unhappy with our looks to get something as simple as a new hair cut and color or something as drastic as breast augmentation and rhinoplasty. We can achieve fame by self publishing a book on Amazon, being amusing on Twitter, or making a silly Youtube video. We can cure all sorts of physical ailments and seem closer than ever to finding the cure for HIV. We are quite the impressive nation, yet we still refuse to accept that a man can love another man so much that the pair wish to marry and enjoy all the benefits and privileges given to a man and a woman who wed.
At one point, I was sure that in my lifetime, I would see same sex marriages legalized in this entire country. I thought that surely people would see this battle as the modern version of the fight for racial equality or women’s rights. I’m not so sure anymore. I don’t know if the irrational fear can be set aside and the issue can be viewed through unbiased eyes. I don’t know if the Bible can take a backseat when it comes to law and policy. I don’t know if equality can exist in a nation that is also home to so many closed minds. I don’t know if we can stop hating what we don’t quite understand and simply allow every consenting and able minded adult out there to marry any other consenting adult of their choosing.
I do have a few shreds of hope left that the Supreme Court will take a step in the right direction and that one step will be followed by many more. The LGBT community cannot be ignored and should not be segregated. What may have worked in the past is not always the same thing that will work in the present day. Society evolves and laws must evolve with it. It no longer makes sense to define marriage as strictly between a male and female and the laws should be changed to reflect that. We must adapt and we must put a stop to this senseless discrimination. If you want to hate homosexuality, knock yourself out, but your blind hatred should have no bearing on the law. This is about love, the union between two loving souls, and the right of every adult to marry whatever other adult they choose. Legalizing same sex marriages will bring about nothing but positivity. We owe it to ourselves and to our country to make this into a reality.
Posted on March 27, 2013, in Life, Love, News and tagged gay, gay marriage, gay rights, homosexual, lesbian, lgbt, pros and cons of gay marriage, same sex marriage, supreme court. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.