I am an atheist, in case you’re new here. Raised Catholic, I made the transition from a believer into an agnostic, finally landing on atheism for a number of reasons. I’m not a “practicing” atheist because there is nothing to practice. I simply don’t believe in any type of god and I don’t care one way or the other what anyone else believes, so long as they aren’t actively trying to change my mind. I do however still celebrate Easter (in its commercial form with bunnies and baskets and colorful eggs) and I celebrate the heck out of Christmas.
My son asked me the other day to explain why we celebrate Christmas. Since he believes in God (as much as an eight year old can, anyway), I led with the birth of Jesus and a few details of why that is important. I then told him that his daddy and I celebrate Christmas as a way to have fun with friends, show love to our family, spend quality time together, and to have a blast getting into the spirit and searching for the perfect gifts for the important people in our lives. He nodded thoughtfully and then said “I love Christmas because I want to be with my family. And so we can all get presents. And because I love you guys.”
I don’t know what our boy will grow up to believe, and I really don’t care one way or the other so long as he’s happy, but I do hope that he holds on to the family piece of the holidays. I’ve had lonely Christmases, either spent physically alone or spent with people who were so focused on both receiving gifts and trying to create a picture perfect meal surrounded by pristine decorations that they forgot to enjoy the people around them. I prefer my broke Christmas day (when dollar store stockings were hung from a cheap entertainment center) over Christmas spent with family who only cared about whether or not there was something diamond encrusted in their stocking.
Any idiot can go out and spend a bunch of money, even idiots who don’t have any so long as they can qualify for a credit card or two. The dollar amount of the gifts you give and receive shouldn’t be what is important. People always say that it’s the thought that matters, and while I may get tired of hearing it said, I believe it to be true. My sister-in-law gets me a Coach purse every year because they’re pricey and it’s an impressive looking gift. I appreciate the gesture but I don’t like or care at all about Coach or any other designer products. My husband bough me socks one year that look like Chuck Taylor’s and they happen to be one of my absolute favorite accessories, even though the set of three couldn’t have been more than $10 or so.
Outside of the fun I have trying to find the perfect gifts for the people I love, I celebrate Christmas because it’s fun to be with my family. Watching their expressions as they open a gift I worked hard to track down, laughing together over a freshly cooked meal, settling in under blankets to watch a Christmasy movie, and watching our dog tear into his stocking stuffers. I don’t care whether or not we take a perfect photo of our morning to throw on social media, I don’t care if we don’t hear from each and every person we know via call or text, and I don’t care (obviously) about making it to any morning mass, sticking to a strict schedule. I want to have fun, be relaxed, and enjoy the people I’m lucky enough to live my life with.
I know the origins of Christmas and I understand that some people may not think that I have any business celebrating since I don’t believe that Jesus was the son of God. But let’s be real; as huge and as commercialized as Christmas has become, people in this country are kind of forced to deal with it whether they want to or not. Most of us get time off from our employers since most of the world shuts down for at least the first few hours of December 25th. Like it or not, it’s hard to overlook this holiday. Why wouldn’t I want to take advantage? Not only do I get paid time off to spend with my family, I am given the perfect excuse to go all out for the people I care about and put a smile on their face.
As long as you have love in your heart (and your religion or lack thereof allows for it), Christmas is a holiday you can celebrate. It’s so much more fun to wish people a Merry Christmas than it is to be that grumpy sod insisting people say “Happy Holidays.” Decorating trees and hanging wreaths in your home is a surefire way to make anyone smile. If you have children, I don’t need to tell you how much fun it is to play Santa for them. If it’s important for you to find the “true” meaning of Christmas, go for it. But understand that the true meaning for you, or even historically, is not the true meaning for us all. Definitions change and people differ. As long as we’re all joyous on this occasion, I think it’s safe to say that we’re all doing it right, even if we’re not all doing it the same.
Posted on December 13, 2013, in Friends and/or Enemies, Life, Party! and tagged agnostic, atheist, belief, catholic, christianity, christmas, coach, god, holiday, jesus, jewelry, merry, merry christmas, religion, spirit. Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.