2014: The Year Of…?
After almost two weeks off from blogging due to vacations and laziness brought about by -16 degree weather, I am back and slightly ready to jump back in. In truth, I am forcing myself to write something against my will. If I don’t, I will continue to slack off and neglect something that is important to me, even if I don’t always want to give it enough of my time. One of my resolutions for this new year is to give this blog the attention I think it deserves. I hate the idea of new year’s resolutions, but I have in fact made some silent promises to myself that I hope I can keep.
Relax, I’m not going to list them for you. If you’re into sharing your goals for this new year, more power to you, but I find that if I talk about a goal to enough people, I’ll eventually view it as unimportant and neglect it. I’m not ashamed to say that I am totally horrible at keeping resolutions. Like a lot of people, I’ll do fantastic for a month or two, but eventually give in to temptation, or simply get lazy and say to hell with it all. The most common broken goal seems to be to lose X amount of pounds by a certain date. Gym memberships are purchased, junk food is thrown away, and workout videos play in living rooms for a few weeks. Then, when results don’t come quick enough or when friends encourage dinners and donuts, the goal is forgotten and the pounds remain where they are.
Having goals is important. If the new year is the excuse you need to set some, you should do it. Many people laugh off the idea of a new year meaning a new beginning, but why can’t it mean just that? What is the downside to finding a reason to better yourself and your life? If someone decides to dedicate more time to charitable work, does it really matter why they are doing it? We’re only 13 tiny days into 2014; if you have yet to set a goal, there’s plenty of time to rack your brain and come up with something good.
I’ve already been asked a dozen times by various people about my resolutions. My answer? Sure, I’ve made a few. No, I’m not telling you what they are. To be blunt, it’s no one’s business what I’ve chosen to fix about myself unless I choose to make it their business. If I’m in a financial bind, that’s on me. If I’m fat or lazy, it’s none of your concern. If my kitchen needs remodeling, you’ll find out if I ever invite you over. I don’t want to be rude, but I don’t see why I should have to open myself up just to satisfy someone’s curiosity. Unless one of my resolutions is to be an open book, I’m keeping this stuff to myself.
Another reason I don’t share is because of the negative and nasty people who exist in this world. The ones who will fail at their own resolutions, remember that you resolved to dedicate more time to your art, and then proceed to pester you about how you’re progressing. They want you to fail. They can’t wait to hear you say “I couldn’t keep up with it” so they feel better about failing themselves. If it’s not them, it’ll be the ones that crushed their resolutions and want to point out your failure so that their success looks even sweeter. I don’t have time for awful people and keeping my mouth shut tends to keep them at bay where this is concerned.
While I may be anti-resolution in the typical fashion, I am most definitely all for self-improvement. I only suggest that when you set your goals, you do it for you. Don’t resolve to get a new job because you’re being pressured to do so, do it because YOU want to advance and move on. Don’t feel obligated to set amazing sounding goals so you can impress those who ask. Set goals that matter to you, and make them as public or as private as you damn well please. The more personal you make your goals, the more likely you are to reach them.
After leaving behind a giant pile of broken resolutions and empty promises, I’m looking at 2014 and seeing great things for myself and for my family. I’ve silently set some realistic goals for myself that are attainable, beneficial, and helpful to my family as well as myself. Other than my husband, no one knows what I have my sights set on and that’s how I intent to keep it until I reach said goal and feel comfortable shouting about it. Keep your fingers crossed for me, and I’ll cross mine for you as we all journey into what looks like an amazing year. Happy 2014!