L Word Mississippi

I had a slight(ly huge) obsession with The Real L Word on Showtime.  Beautiful women whose lives were filled with drama, love and heartbreak, and truly wonderful personal journeys.  When the last season wrapped, I was happy to see two weddings but sad to see the series come to a close.  A couple of days ago, I saw a promo on Showtime for L Word Mississippi: Hate The Sin.  I missed the premiere, but made sure to record it the next time it was on.


The title was a bit off-putting, but nothing could have prepared me for what I witnessed for the next 90 minutes.  I have experienced my fair share of discrimination.  As a multi-racial person, I’ve gotten the question “what are you” more times than I care to remember.  When I lived in Georgia, I came face to face with the KKK and was made to feel less than human in my high school.  I grew up knowing what homosexuality was due to a gay second cousin, so I never gave it a second thought, but was always disgusted with the challenges my LGBT friends would face.  Even today, I see their struggles and it gets to me.  Because I’m not sheltered at all, I didn’t expect to be as shocked as I was at the stories from Mississippi.

L Word Mississippi began with the clear message that it’s not okay to be gay.  There is no holding hands in public, no kissing your girlfriend at the market, and no being free to live and love as you choose.  The religious community in Mississippi is massive, and that is a major factor in why the struggle for these women is so great.  “Praying the gay away” is thought to be something you can do.  Even some of the women featured on this documentary pray to save their own souls from their so-called sinful lives.  They have found love, but due to the teachings of the church, believe that love to be wrong and want to be saved and find a man to love.


Rene’s story had my jaw on the floor, especially after we were introduced to her son, Devin.  Rene spent her life dressing masculine and even stuffing a strap-on down her pants in order to feel more like a man.  She stopped and began trying to dress and act more feminine after finding Jesus a year earlier.  Her son came out as gay a few years ago and she blames herself completely.  I dare anyone to look at Rene and Devin and try to tell me that being gay is a choice and not simply the way you’re born.  It’s beyond painful to watch Rene deny who she is in order to appease the church and the community.  It’s worse when she tries to impose those twisted beliefs on her son, who is happy to be who he is.

The other relationships we get to see in this documentary are truly beautiful.  Cameron and Amber are such a loving couple, and lucky enough to have a support system in the Per2yon Family, but you can still see the pain on their faces.  The level of hatred and ignorance they have to face is beyond my understanding and I give them so much credit for being strong each and every day.  Sara, who is expecting a baby boy, struggles with not only being a lesbian and the stigma that is attached to that, but is dealing with her wife transitioning into becoming her husband.  BB, a former pastor, is trying to right the wrongs of her past by helping LGBTQ youth so they don’t feel lost, ostracized, and suicidal.  The “love the sinner, hate the sin” message is strong, but it’s clear that the actual feelings of the community is “hate the sin, shame the sinner.”


I don’t want to elaborate any further because I want everyone to please look this documentary up and watch it.  Regardless of your beliefs or level of acceptance, please watch this with an open mind and heart.  I want you to be as shocked as I was that this type of hatred and ignorance is not only still incredibly present, but is so widespread.  I am grateful for all the women involved for sharing their stories and hope that as more people see L Word Mississippi, more people begin to realize that it’s not the LGBTQ community that needs to change.  It’s the rest of us.


About Jamie C. Baker

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Posted on August 13, 2014, in Crazy People, Family, Fear, Life, Love, News and tagged , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. Such a beautiful write-up on this documentary. This documentary had a VERY strong affect on me. All of the couples were so beautiful, and, being born and raised in southern Mississippi, I can understand all of the surrounding hate. I’m, personally, not gay.. but, a super ally for everyone to love as they wish. I have to agree on Rene, she was so incredibly hard to watch. I kept crying. Such a beautiful lady and all she wants to do is love. Love is something that EVERYONE deserves. Even murderers deserve to be loved. It’s a right for everyone. To have that taken away and told that you can’t do it as you wish, is one of the meanest things you can do to a person. Rene breaks my heart. The last thing she said was “I prayed this to god, that, if I ever go back to that lifestyle, before I do, I want him to just take me out. Or I’ll take myself out.” That doesn’t make any sense to me. She doesn’t want to live a “sinful” lifestyle, and in order to ensure that she doesn’t, she’d rather complete a very sinful act that actually affects others. Being gay and loving another being doesn’t hurt ANYONE! Suicide is a completely different story. I’m not a super religious person, but if I ever decide to pray, I will always pray for her. Pray that she finds a way to love Jesus and know that he loves her for who she is.. a beautiful person who has the right to love and be loved. The amount of guilt that she is living with is AWFUL. You can tell her son is really worried about her. And I loved at the end of the docu when he told her he’d support her in anything she decides to do.. If only she could love herself that same way. Sorry for the long comment, I just appreciated your thoughts. 🙂 – Kari

  2. Ellen Hernandez

    I found a lot of it heartbreaking to watch because of the pain inflicted on people by those who misinterpret Christian theology. I can never believe that a loving God would want people to feel guilty over being who they are. Rene’s story was the most heartbreaking of all, and those final lines were haunting. I hope her son can somehow help her see that she is being emotionally damaged by her misguided belief that “the devil” put these “thoughts and feelings” in her mind.

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