It’s Finally Fabulous Wedding Season
The Supreme Court ruled, in a 5 to 4 vote, that the Constitution guarantees a right to same-sex marriage. This is something I never expected to see in my lifetime and something that makes me proud of this country. Marriage should be a union between two consenting adults; there is nothing complex or confusing about it. I’m excited to see what this monumental ruling brings down the road.
What doesn’t excite me is the horrible attitudes of people who still strongly oppose same-sex unions. The reality we live in is full of all types of couples; different races and social standings and genders and religions. No one has to agree with every union out there. I don’t happen to agree with an 18-year-old marrying someone old enough to be their grandfather, but I’m not about to parade the streets in protest. Consenting adults get to marry whoever those consenting adults want.
A marriage of any kind affects the two people who are married, plus any children they have, any pets they keep, and any family members who live with them. Outside of that, if you are affected by someone’s marriage, it is because you are choosing to insert yourself somewhere that you don’t need to be. My brother, who was married last year, lives in New York and his marriage didn’t change anything in my world. Two friends of mine also married last year, and their marriage (which was the best wedding I’ve ever been to) also didn’t affect me past the few pounds I probably gained from their amazing cupcakes. If you are whining about how you are negatively affected by same-sex marriages, it’s your own damn fault.
The whole “I don’t want it thrown in my face argument” isn’t valid either. The people who are shouting this from the rooftops are the same ones who are heavily invested in reality television, who are keeping up with the Kardashians, and who gossip heavily on social media. You are throwing nonsense in the faces of everyone around you when you drone on about the latest garbage on E! News, discussing the most recent celebrity weddings and hook-ups. The world isn’t going to censor itself because you’re too fragile to handle it. If you don’t want things “thrown in your face,” remove yourself from society, stop watching Big Brother, and log off Facebook while the rest of us carry on living our lives and enjoying the little pleasures each day brings.
“But I don’t want to see rainbows everywhere, or two men making out.” First of all, rainbows are fantastic. They are bright and colorful and happy. If you hate the sight of happiness, I don’t know what to tell you. Second, I can understand not wanting to see two guys making out because, personally, I don’t want to see ANYONE making out. Excessive displays of public affection are uncomfortable regardless of the couple. That said, if you are getting up in arms about two women holding hands, you need to take it down a notch and quit being so damn uptight. PG displays of love are a part of life; so long as it doesn’t cross a line, quit obsessing and leave people alone.
“But it destroys the sanctity of marriage.” And straight couples getting married for the 4th or 5th time doesn’t? Shows like Arranged, The Bachelor/Bachelorette and Married At First Sight aren’t destroying it? Photographers stalking celebrity weddings and posting photos for greedy fans to devour doesn’t destroy it? Sorry, guys, but a woman marrying a woman she loves isn’t destroying a single thing. It’s working to rebuild the institution of marriage by opening the door for many more loving and deserving couples that want to marry in the eyes of God and/or the law.
When it’s all said and done, everyone has the right to their own opinion. But I have the right to keep my distance from people who are stuck in the dark ages and who refuse to evolve along with the rest of us. I have already deleted a couple of people from my life due to their ignorant and close-minded views. I have deleted them because they are insulting, rude, and acting quite childish, not to mention quick to place blame on the so-called cowards who have joined me in dropping them as friends. People who oppose equality and love don’t earn any space in my life.
Maybe these people will come around, and maybe they won’t. What matters to me is that the majority is standing tall and proud, cheering this decision along with me. My child will grow up in a better world than I grew up in. Things are changing and it can only get better from here. It’s a waste of time and energy to sulk, hating on people you don’t even know. Stop hating. Start embracing.
Posted on June 29, 2015, in Love, News and tagged equal, equality, gay, gay marriage, lesbial, lgbt, lgbtq, love, pros and cons of gay marriage, rights, same sex marriage, wedding. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.