Yesterday, a random woman on Twitter felt the need to educate me on my hypocrisy regarding breastfeeding in public. According to her, moms should be allowed to do it wherever and however they see fit. This stemmed from a comment I made earlier in the day on Twitter. It was not directed at her or hashtagged, so I assume she was just bored and searching for people to annoy.
What I said was “This whole right to breastfeed in public thing drives me nuts thanks to moms who have no respect for others & think they’re entitled. Yes, you should be able to breastfeed in public, but YES you should cover up your jugs & not be an obnoxious twat about it.” This was in reaction to a news story about mothers who harassed a business owner after he had requested a mother cover herself in his restaurant while breastfeeding. The mother in question, according to all accounts, made no effort to hide her bare breast in full view of the patrons.
There is a big difference between a mother trying to feed her child and a woman using her child to make a point to whoever happens to be watching. Just because you are still breastfeeding your child doesn’t mean you are entitled to be disrespectful to others. Having your breast fully exposed in public, especially in places with a captive audience such as a restaurant, is not okay. I’m not suggesting moms go hide in the restrooms or in their cars to breastfeed, but I do feel they should make an effort to cover up.
My sister-in-law used one of those massive tent-like covers that completely masked everything. I’ve seen other moms carefully use a blanket to hide certain areas so you can tell what is going on but it’s not in your face. My issue is with the women who feel that breastfeeding is something that needs to be announced to the world. A child should not be used as part of some twisted statement. Even if a business owner wrongly shoos you away while you rightfully feed your child, you should have enough decency to not react by turning your child into a tool for revenge.
Feeding your child does not make you special. Providing the most basic of needs doesn’t make you better than anyone else or entitled to receive all sorts of special treatment at the expense of others. Why should I have to hide my son’s eyes because some woman decides to whip out her breast at Applebee’s? Why can’t she have respect for those around her and do it discreetly? Why am I wrong for wanting mothers to make an attempt to not flash their milk jugs to the world?
I’m not a prude, but I’m also not okay with seeing random tits everywhere. The “it’s natural” argument is lost on me, as a lot of things are “natural” but shouldn’t be blatantly done/performed in public. If your true goal is to feed your baby in the best possible way, then do it. But when your breastfeeding becomes not only an inappropriate public display, but a tool to shame mothers who choose formula and a tool to harass businesses, you’ve crossed a line. Your baby is not a prop.
I suppose I was called a hypocrite by random Twitter lady because I support breastfeeding in public, but I don’t support certain ways it is done. What needs to exist is a mutual respect for each other by mothers and business owners/patrons/etc. Mothers need to make an effort to cover so we’re not seeing nipples galore and everyone else needs to be understanding about the fact that babies need to eat on their schedule, not anyone else’s. Moms should not be forced to hide in a dirty public restroom to breastfeed and I should not have to see nipples and giant engorged bare breasts while shopping at Target. It’s give and take on both sides.
According to my new Twitter BFF, covering hinders lactation. So because a small percentage of babies don’t like any type of cover whatsoever, all mothers should be able to skip using it? I have yet to hear a good argument as to why I shouldn’t demand a bit of modesty from nursing moms. I have yet to hear a rational reason why this angry group of breastfeeding mothers insists that frontal exposure is not only necessary to properly breastfeed, but is something the rest of us should simply deal with. I have yet to hear a good reason why breastfeeding has to be an odd political statement instead of an act of providing nourishment to a baby.
Breastfeeding alone does not make you more woman or more mother than anyone else. You might be the loudest person in the room but volume has nothing to do with your value. If you want to be a good mother, be a good mother. If you want to be respected when you feed your child in public, do so in a way that doesn’t also make you a public nuisance. If you just want to get your knockers out and yell at passerby, no one is going to respect you or listen to a damn thing you say. There is a way to make this whole thing a nonissue, once people get off their soapboxes, quit using babies as protest signs, stop shaming mothers, and start acting like decent human beings.
I wrote the following article for FaceToHeel.com prior to finding out that Daniel Bryan was out. He was unfortunately not medically cleared for competition due to a shoulder injury. Bryan overcame all odds at WrestleMania XXX to win the WWE World Heavyweight Championship in a Triple Threat match. His WrestleMania moment was without a doubt a once in a lifetime experience. WWE tried to replicate it in a smaller fashion this year by having him win the Intercontinental Title, but it didn’t come close.
Now, thanks to Bryan pushing himself past his limits, his career may be over. We don’t know the extent of the original injuries and we don’t know if he was truly ready to come back. Once he was back, he acted recklessly and obviously put his body on the line just so we were entertained. I hope that this new injury is just a minor setback, but my gut tells me that our days of Bryan as our hero are over and done with.
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After WrestleMania ended, we jumped right into the countdown to Extreme Rules. Brock Lesnar, who just signed a three year contract, is “indefinitely suspended” and has been off television since the Raw after WrestleMania. Daniel Bryan, Seth Rollins and John Cena captured the gold, while Tyson Kidd and Cesaro managed to hold onto theirs. AJ Lee wrestled her last Mania match, retiring just days later. The United States title has been up for grabs every Monday night, while the Divas title hasn’t been defended in god knows how long. I’m not sure how extreme I would rate some of the stipulated matches on the card, but I’m hopeful that we will see some seriously hardcore matches ahead. Let’s take a look at the card and make some predictions.
Tyson Kidd & Cesaro (c) vs The New Day – Kickoff Tag Team Title Match
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Imagine the worst person you have ever dated. Add some extra emotional abuse. Take away their common sense and make sure they argue with you constantly, especially in situations where everyone knows they are wrong. Add in the ability to ruin quiet evenings at home at the drop of a hat by simply refusing to do the one thing they are meant to do. Oh, and they also have herpes, which they graciously gave to you, so expect them to always pop back into your life, in a manner of speaking. This is what life is life if you are or ever have been a Comcast customer.
My husband and I bought a home in October 2014. Prior to closing, I researched the cable providers in our area and was told that Comcast and Direct TV were our two options. After reluctantly calling Comcast, I was told that our street was not wired because it was “too expensive” and “not worth doing at this time.” Thankfully, a very helpful customer service rep at AT&T let me know that our street was set up for U-Verse; all they had to do was wire our home and we could transfer our service over. I love AT&T.
Yesterday, we found a note on our door stating “We will be doing construction in your area for cable television. All known existing utilities will be located and exposed to prevent damage to them.” It even had an adorable cartoon construction worker on it. I called the number on the back of the card for more information and was told that yes, our entire street was going to be “serviced.” They will be boring eight inch holes in the yards to look for utilities. Then they will fill them back up and spray paint the areas. When I asked why, they told me it was to wire the neighborhood for Comcast services.
Now, they could have EASILY done this during the time AT&T chose to wire the neighborhood, when NO ONE WAS LIVING THERE, NO ONE HAD GRASS, AND NOTHING WOULD BE DISTURBED. Instead, they are now going to dig for treasure in yards that have finally established a lawn and in yards like mine where my husband and I have spent hours in the yard trying to get things going and spent quite a bit of cash investing in seed and hay and tools. And the kicker is that by law, they are allowed to dig up any yard in any neighborhood and don’t have to do a goddamn thing to fix it when they are done. Awesome.
Comcast gave us less than a week’s worth notice. They failed to put their name on the notice, give the neighborhood adequate information about what they were doing, and failed to do things properly in a way that made sense and didn’t annoy the piss out of everyone around them. Since they don’t have to make repairs, I fully expect that we will have some lovely round dirt holes where grass used to grow once next week rolls around. Comcast doesn’t care and they could not be more clear about that fact.
It appears that I have no course of action here. For some reason, MY property isn’t MINE when it comes to digging and installing cables that no one needs because we all already have cable services and sure as hell don’t want shitty Comcast. I’ve been assured that it will cost me “about $20 to fill in my yard with seed and topsoil, depending on how many holes they dig.” That’s reassuring, thanks. Basically, I have to bend over and take it. I don’t understand how this company is still in business, I don’t get how customers stick with them (unless they are still stuck on hold, which is a strong possibility).
It took us three weeks to leave Comcast, as their systems were always down when we tried to cancel, forcing us to drive quite a ways out to drop off our equipment and cancel for good. Years later, they are still finding ways to screw with us. Never have I ever seen a company care so little about their customers and still manage to keep them. Comcast is the worst kind of business and I hope one day, they burn to the ground.
I don’t smoke cigarettes, I don’t smoke weed, and I don’t smoke anything you have to buy at a dimly lit street corner from a guy with shifty eyes that smells like a musty basement and bad decisions. But I will smoke a cigar without question or hesitation. My grandfather used to sit out on my front porch when I was very young with his favorite cigar, blowing rings into the air as I played in the yard. The smell of cigar smoke is very nostalgic for me, but I also simply enjoy the hell out of them.
My husband recently got a great deal on a pack of ten through an advertised deal he found in one of the many free magazine subscriptions we get delivered to the house every week. To keep myself from dipping into his new supply, I got myself a few at the gas station to tide me over until I could find my own place to get a good deal from. I won’t knock the gas station cigar; it’s an easy enough option and not pricey at all. My last Speedway stogie burned out last night, so I need to go shopping for something with quality.
I stumbled upon Famous Smoke Shop and proceeded to get lost in their incredible selection. I’ll be honest, I’m not a cigar connoisseur who knows brands and best locations to buy from, so the fact that they have a wide variety of samplers is perfect for me. I also found a gorgeous foot locker humidor that I am seriously considering buying for my husband (hopefully he skips over this article). I’m not into vaping myself, but I do have friends who are, so I’ve knocked out a few Christmas gifts as well thanks to their selection.
I am very excited to say that I have some amazing cigars heading my way in the very near future! With the weather finally cooperating, I’m looking forward to enjoying some nights out on the porch, encased in a cloud of smoke with my husband. Once he and I are able to try the Famous Smoke collection, I will be posting a review. Now all I need to worry about is what whiskey best pairs with what cigar. The possibilities are endless; a shame my wallet isn’t as well…
Last night’s WrestleMania definitely had its ups and downs. Check out the best and worst the show had to offer, via FaceToHeel.com.
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I skipped watching the season finale of The Walking Dead last night, because German Suplexes trump zombies nearly every time. We tuned into the network around 3pm to refresh on the Royal Rumble and watch a bit of last year’s WrestleMania. The preshow began at 5pm, with WM kicking off at 7. A total of nine matches were scheduled for this six hour event, with two taking place in the second hour of the preshow. Let’s take a look at the best and the worst that Wrestle Mania XXXI had to offer.
1. Kid Ink and Skyler Gray – There isn’t much to say about this musical performance, which is the problem. Last year, we saw two bands play Bray Wyatt and Randy Orton’s entrance themes. It was a fantastic way to incorporate musical performances into the event. This year’s performance felt awkward. Skyler has a great voice, so…
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Happy WrestleMania weekend! FaceToHeel.com will be flooding the internet with WM coverage leading up to the main event. Please check out my latest article discussing the return of Sheamus and his possible WM involvement.
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Over the past few weeks, WWE has been airing video packages to get the fans hyped up for the return of Sheamus. No date has been given for when the Celtic Warrior will be back in the ring, but both logic and rumors have him coming back at WrestleMania. Sheamus has been out of action since November of last year. Fans may have expected his return to occur during the Royal Rumble, but that was the exact same thing WWE chose to do the year before, as he was a surprise Royal Rumble entrant in 2013 after recovering from injury. With this being his second major injury in two years, there is a chance he could run into the same issue that faces Dolph Ziggler and now be kept away from the title picture, used occasionally only as a tease.
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Indiana Governor Mike Pence signed the Religious Freedom Restoration Act into law this morning in a private ceremony, and I for one could not be happier! For far too long, wonderful upstanding citizens have been forced to endure countless hours of agony thanks to the gay community. Business owners have had to sit back while the evil gays make purchases in their stores, then be wished a nice day before those awful gays return to their life of sin. Now, thanks to the savvy minds in Indiana, this is no longer a worry!
Business owners are free to kick out horrible lesbian couples, refusing to give them service because of who they choose to love. Yes, CHOOSE, because being gay is 110% a choice and definitely not a way someone is born. No longer will I have to go to my friendly neighborhood bakery and watch as two men DARE to hold hands as they leave after purchasing their muffins and donuts. Gay, pink sprinkled donuts, no doubt. Mike Pence has made all our dreams come true, and I’m so glad we are ushering in 2015 with this type of forward thinking!
And no, before you say it, this is definitely not a cheap way of allowing people to hide behind religion in order to discriminate blindly against people they don’t understand, lifestyles they wouldn’t want for themselves, or other things that don’t affect them personally. I’m not religious myself, but boy if I was, I would definitely use whatever interpretation of the bible I could in order to keep certain people at arm’s length. It’s not hiding behind God, it’s doing His work! Because if there was one thing we can all learn from Jesus, it’s that we are NOT all God’s children and definitely do NOT deserve equal treatment.
If Governor Pence didn’t take this amazing initiative, just think of what the great state of Indiana would devolve into? Gays would run rampant through the streets, frequenting businesses in their community like the rest of us and enjoying life’s little pleasures. They would likely demand that all local businesses cover everything with rainbows and glitter so they feel more welcome. Our children would be corrupted by the sight of a loving same sex couple who has the NERVE to go out on a day trip to do some shopping.
Some local businesses are protesting the RFRA by putting stickers in their windows saying “This Business Serves Everyone.” Clearly, these people need to find God. Equal treatment for all is not what this country is all about! In this day and age, we should be striving to move backward through time and return to the days where people were afraid of anyone who was different from they are, be it race or religion or sexual orientation. They don’t call them the good ol’ days for nothing, am I right?!?
Sure, Indiana may be losing Gen Con, as the popular money making convention wants nothing to do with such a close-minded state, but we don’t need those costumed weirdos anyway! The nice thing about RFRA is that not only can businesses discriminate against same sex couples, but they can also discriminate against other races, religions, tall people, guys with ponytails, you name it! Even if you think someone LOOKS gay, out the door they go! It’s brilliant!
Pence stated “This bill is not about discrimination, and if I thought it legalized discrimination in any way in Indiana, I would have vetoed it. For more than 20 years, the federal Religious Freedom Restoration Act has never undermined our nation’s anti-discrimination laws, and it will not in Indiana.” See?!? This is not about kicking a gay couple out of your store to discriminate against them! It’s about kicking a gay couple out because God says they are wrong for being who they are! It’s totally different! It doesn’t legalize discrimination, it just says that it’s totally okay to discriminate if you own a business and don’t like the personal lives of the people who choose to come around you.
It’s a proud day for Indiana. Heck, it’s a proud day for the country! Hopefully someone comes along to address my marriage next, because God knows I was totally wrong for marrying outside of my race. And I also hope someone quickly holds an intervention for me so I can rid myself of every friend and acquaintance that isn’t 100% straight and proud of it. This return to the dark ages is something we should applaud. Thank you, Mike Pence, for signing this bill and making me realize how wrong I was all these years thinking that each and every human on Earth deserved equal treatment. Thank you for teaching my child and children around the world that being different is something that should be punished. Thank you for showing us that “separate but equal” is an idea worth returning to. Thank you for opening my eyes to the fact that someone’s personal and private lives involving love and companionship is something we should blindly hate and publicly shun. Thank you for showing me that I was wrong all these years I ignorantly assumed that I was doing the right thing by treating everyone fairly and openly. Thank you, Mike Pence. I applaud you.
On March 30th, Comedy Central will air the roast of Justin Bieber, which occurred last weekend. Kevin Hart served as roast master with a dais including Ludacris, Jeff Ross, Martha Stewart, Hannibal Buress, Chris D’Elia, Natasha Leggero, Shaquille O’Neal, Snoop Dogg, and more. The bright spot of the whole night will likely be Jeff Ross, who is already taking heat over a joke about the late Paul Walker. Bieber said he didn’t like the joke, so I plan on finding it the funniest thing in the world. Or at least I would, if I was watching.
This will be the first roast I’ve skipped since finding out they existed. It was always my understanding that a roast should be an honor to the individual on the receiving end of the sharp jokes and insult comedy. The jokes usually end with honest praise and thanks for their work, friendship, and so on. Comedy Central has roasted some fantastic people in the past, people who have contributed much to their fields and who are beloved by their fans. How Bieber fits into this is a mystery to me.
Bieber has smashed into everything under the sun with his car, egged homes, pissed in public, and acted like a total asshole. He’s been charges with reckless driving, vandalism, DUI and assault. He had drugs found on his tour bus. A timeline can be found here. He’s behaved like a punk child, literally pissing away his former cute singing kid next door image. I don’t care what excuses he or anyone can come up with, there’s no reason for anyone to have as much legal issues at his age. There’s no reason to behave like an animal. The guy is an idiot.
I fail to see how Justin Bieber is someone worth roasting. Yes, I know people complained about Larry The Cable Guy, but he and the rest of the Blue Collar Comedy Tour were on fire at the time, and still are for a lot of people. James Franco was called “just a stoner,” but he’s not only acted in, but had a hand in creating some amazing movies. Bieber invites all sorts of criticism with his piss poor behavior. But does that make him worthy of a roast? It feels like a waste of time and effort. Out of all the people who were in attendance at the event, how many of them do you think actually give a damn about this kid? Chris D’Elia said it best: “Why are you here? This is a terrible idea.”
This entire thing feels like a carefully crafted way to get people to like Justin again. At the end of the roast, he apologized for his godawful behavior. Sitting through the roast was the perfect way to show people that he is capable of laughing at himself and is a well-rounded, humorous individual. Allowing us to make fun of him right to his face was a way to show character and personal growth. I don’t know if anyone will fall for it or not, but he was almost immediately invited to be a guest on Ellen afterwards to discuss the roast and make people uncomfortable by flirting with Madonna.
While on Ellen, he said “I’m sorry for the stuff that I’ve done. I’m not searching for people’s approval but I just want people to know that that’s not me and I was doing stuff that wasn’t me. A lot of times we pretend so that we can fit in and then we end up looking like a … and that was kind of me. I really just didn’t know how to handle it. It went to my head and I had to let people pull me down for me to see the truth and to see how much of a jerk I was being. Now I just want people to know that this is me. I’m just a genuine person who has fun. I just wasn’t trying to be a jerk.”
It has already begun. I feel as if this roast was simply a marketing ploy, a PR event held in an unconventional way. It took the roast, one of my favorite comedic mediums, and cheapened it into something I want no part of. It wasted the time of some great comedians and it will waste even more time once it airs on television. Hell, I’ve wasted more time on it than I should have writing this over the last ten minutes. Hopefully this was a one off occurrence and we quickly return to roasting those who are actually worth a damn.
My latest FaceToHeel article looks closer at the #GIveDivasAChance movement. I recently learned that the Bella twins are claiming responsibility for the 30 match on Raw, trying to make a point by cutting it short and enraging fans. They claim they were given approximately 3 minutes for the entire segment, so all four athletes decided that a short match would tell a better story than trying to cram in a good match in such a short time. Regardless of who planned what, it may have had a lasting effect.
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If you were hoping for a Bella vs Bella match at WrestleMania, you may be disappointed. The possibility of Brie ditching her sister and returning to being the loving wife to Daniel Bryan was a pipedream, as the Fastlane PPV came and went without Brie turning on her sister and making the Divas title match somewhat interesting. Paige is once again back in the title picture, which is great for her but ultimately confusing, seeing as how we have Natalya, Naomi, and Alicia Fox waiting in the sidelines for a shot of their own. Overall, there does seem to be a bit of extra effort being put into the Divas, a response to the #GiveDivasAChance movement online and former Divas champ AJ Lee calling out Stephanie McMahon on her hypocrisy regarding the unequal treatment of the female talent.
Speaking of AJ, our resident geek goddess has returned after finally recovering…
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The Indiana Religious Freedom Restoration Act passed through the state Senate yesterday by a vote of 40 to 10, thanks to the heavy Republican support. The act will allow individuals and businesses to refuse services on the grounds of their personal beliefs. It basically legalizes discrimination against LGBT individuals. Supporters of the bill state that the bill is actually just strengthening the 1st Amendment rights of freedom of religion. The bill is currently at the House of Representatives for debate and vote, where I hope it dies.
I am 100% in favor of freedom of religion. I do not enjoy being told what I should or should not believe, and I imagine the rest of the world feels the same way, regardless of their religion or lack thereof. What boggles my mind here is that my state wants to give the green light to businesses to boldly discriminate against LGBT individuals and couples while hiding behind a religion they may not even be that serious about. This opens a door for hateful people to simply be hateful, denying services to others for the simple reason that they don’t agree with who they love, sleep next to, and spend their life with.
This bill is not protecting anyone’s freedom of religion. This bill is destroying equality for every individual who chooses to live outside the norm of “man marries woman.” This bill is hurting people who simply want to be free to be who they are. This bill teaches children that being gay is not okay. It sends a message that the LGBT community is less than the rest of us. It sends a message to all that the popular belief is homosexuality is wrong, is a sin, and all who identify as such will be going to hell.
I don’t want to live in a world where I can go get a coffee, have my haircut, and get a massage while someone else who happens to be gay can be refused those services over what they do behind closed doors. In a world where we worry about the rights of recently released prisoners, who have raped and murdered and done unspeakable things, why are we so preoccupied with sexual orientation? How does anyone else’s sex life affect us personally? I don’t agree with polygamy, but I sure as hell don’t oppose it. It’s not a choice I would make, but I’m also not affected whatsoever by any polygamous couple anywhere. Their daily life has no impact on mine.
We need to come together and accept that being gay, transgendered, or bisexual is a fact of life. I was born straight. Others are born gay. Some are born in the wrong body. Some are gender blind. We can’t help the way we are born. A gay person cannot help being gay any more than I can help being a woman with brown eyes of average height. Hate, on the other hand, is something we learn. We are taught that certain things are wrong. We learn to detest characteristics and choices people make. We build a hatred towards things we don’t understand. THAT is what we need to work on changing.
This issue is as important as the issue of racial equality, if not more so, as sexual preference doesn’t stick to certain races or nationalities. People would be outraged if a business refused service to every Hispanic person that came through their doors, yet we are going to be okay with the same business refusing service to a lesbian couple? These are foolish and stupid things to judge people on and it needs to stop. My husband pointed out that it wouldn’t be okay for a business run by a gay person or people to refuse service to straight couples, and if a bill was passed allowing this to be done, people would be enraged. No matter what the discrimination is, be it skin color or religion or orientation, we should be doing all we can to fight against it, not be passing bills in support of it.
Some may argue that this is needed because children shouldn’t be “exposed” to certain things. I grew up knowing what cross dressing was, understanding that different people have different skin colors, knowing what being gay meant, and accepting different religions and social/economic differences. I am a better person for being exposed to so-called harmful things. Drag queens aren’t going to go away, so what’s the harm in your child seeing one and asking a question? If you want to argue that it’s inappropriate, then you better start shielding your child from Kim Kardashian, every 20-something during the summer, Facebook, Instagram, TV in general, The Walking Dead, professional wrestling, public places, college, popular music… you get the idea. When it comes to harmful influences, the label of GAY doesn’t automatically qualify as harmful.
We need to stop acting as if being gay makes someone a bad person or an affront to any god. We need to stop calling it a perversion, as we all know that straight people can be more perverted than can be imagined; being into unusual things isn’t based on whether you are gay, straight, or bisexual. We need to stop thinking that pedophilia is something exclusively affecting the gay community and sticking that perverted label to them. We need to stop being such assholes, plain and simple, denying basic human rights to people based on things that are none of our damn business to begin with.
I currently have and have had gay friends (and family members), straight friends, bisexual friends, confused friends, slutty friends, repressed friends, and every type in between. The only time the love/sex lives of any of them affected me is when a friend of mine decided to bang my boyfriend at the time. Otherwise, they do them and I do me and everyone is happy as pie. Unless someone is being a nuisance about something, I’m not bothered. Who they sleep with, pray to, or what country they would travel to if they wanted to visit ancestors is of no concern so long as they are a decent and honest person.
My mother once told me that if I ever brought home a black man, she would disown me. One parent among many who will turn away from their children based on who they love. One person among many who think its acceptable to deny rights, goods and services, or even kindness to another based on characteristics that don’t define character. My son will likely grow up unable to say that he lives in a world where an LGBT individual receives the same rights and privileges as a straight individual. In a country that loves to proclaim it’s the land of the free and of opportunities, how utterly pathetic is that?